Is everything ok with our kids? Are you sure with your answer?

Dear friends,

I have a chat with one of my great teacher few days back. We discussed many things from orthopaedics to life and politics. I want to share this topic with everybody..

Our children are in danger. We are talking about danger not only physical, but enviromental and spiritual.

Nowadays, it is very common for working parents to leave their children either with babysitter (family, neighbour or maid: most of the time Indonesian) or in nursery. I did it too. Most of the time, either we realize or not, we feel relieve and happy as somebody is looking after our kids. Is that really true? I'm talking about our preschool kids here.

I don't think so! I think our kids is in danger of loosing what we really want them to inherit, for the next generation. We said we looked after their education and others needs, but most of the time we only do so from 'money' point of view. We care about payments to the respective parties, transportation and others extra curicular activities, but thatwas for a simple reason. if we do not do so, our comfortable daily routine will be disturbed. We actually is looking after ourselves instead of our children!

Please, even if you don't have time, visit those nursery during abnormal office hours. For examples, around 10 am (when they usually serve snacks @late breakfast) and have a look what is there for our children to eat. You will feel bad most of the time. We occupy hinger rank in the society, but our kids have for food is... so sad to say here.

Go back home during the same time, and have a look ( or 'intai') what's going on at home between your maid and your kids. You will understand what i'm trying to say here? The worse thing, can we afford to do that everyday to find out what's really happening to our kids? I give you my answer.. Impossible!

So, if it's impossible for us to even find out what's going on (data collection), don't you think that it's also impossible for us to provide the correct solution. we don't even recognize what is our problem here!

Dear friends,
Please wake up. Our children are so helpless and they ONLY depend on us to help them. We are their parents and ONLY we can help them. Please do not think that anybody else will do that part for us, eventhough they offer and appear to do so.

I'm giving you only one partof it. There were so many of them. The way they talk to our children, hygiene issue, how about in the toilet, safety, emotional support, advises and so many of them. Swimming class, mandarin class, visits and so many others with extra charges of course cannot replace our company and care.

Eventhough my writing this time appear like everything is bad about our kid's teachers, i do not mean that, actually. Of course some of them are excellent and caring. They deserve certain credits. They have done well to our kids so far!

But they can never replaced our roles as a parents and 'main' love provider.

We are the one, who's supposed to give them love. More than what we claimed! You just need to stay with them, talk to them and observe them through their deeep eyes and you will find the answer. And the answer is not for you to tell anyone else.. It's meant only for you. Because, you're their only solution in their helpless world. They are innocent, I agree, but that doesn'r mean that we can continue to leave them in that bloody helpless environment..

Let's do something friend..