May God bless this effort

Dear all,
I would like to express my thanks to everybody, who provide support and useful comments during the introduction process of my blog.

Here is the plan,
I'll write whenever i have the time. I'm a person with multiple roles, as only excellent time management will allow me to do so. The topic will varies to suit everybody, extending from personal to national issues with a single objective: to share the principle of living with sincerity.

The "Photo Minggu Ini" section will be changed weekly, as the title suggest. Usually, it come from my personal collection. However, i welcome your photo (to be posted here) as long as you provide the message to be delivered (maybe with a short story) by email to me. Think about the message around it. Look more than what you see!
For example, I started with photo of a newborn baby, my first son exactly, at his few minutes of life, just to reflects my 'baby' status in the world of bloggers. Think around it, and you will discover your own answer. Maybe it's about love towards our own children @ how clean and defenseless they are @ physiology during delivery and infancy @ gejala membuang bayi sekarang ini @ our own memory ... and so on and so forth. So many issues around and all of them are correct and real, based on your own interpretation.

The segment "Recurrent Issues in Malaysia" will list the topics, which i think, too long and too complex to be elaborated here. Just go through the list, and you will noticed that what we are doing is exactly what we have been doing before. Nothing is new. Debates get boring around the corner, as we use to listen to the same story. We are tired and sicked of it!
Hopefully, this will trigger us to provide the major solution and allow us to move to the next step to develop ourselves, rather than wasting our energy to think about the same thing again and again.

I will try my best to share with you everything i know, and at the same time i'm looking forward to learn from each and everyone of you, whoever and wherever you are.
Come and lets start the circle of this beautiful processes, sharing and learning so that we can ourselves, start giving to others.

Beautiful, our life is.

Dr Mohammad Nawar Arifffin

Mencari damai di hati

Salam untuk semua,
saya pohon maaf kerana sudah lama menyepi, dan kali ini saya kembali dalam versi bahasa melayu khusus untuk mencuba keupayaan saya menulis dalam bahasa ibunda saya. Sudah lama rupanya saya tidak berbuat demikian. Mungkin ada baiknya saya menulis dalam versi dwi-bahasa.. Sila beri respons anda OK!

dan,
sebagaimana yang dijanjikan saya akan berbicara tentang bagaimana ingin mencari damai di hati. Acapkali, saya menerima undangan untuk bercakap tentang hal ini dan saya mendapat galakan dari pendengar yang lain supaya saya berterusan berkongsi maklumat ini dengan semua orang.. Itulah yang saya lakukan sekarang..

baiklah,
damai di hati adalah rahsia besar orang yang berjaya. Ini adalah kerana dengan adanya damai di hati maka mereka ini dapat menumpukan sepenuh fokus dan tenaga mereka dalam melakukan sesuatu pekerjaan tanpa ada gangguan lain. Sudah diketahui umum, apabila jiwa dan dalaman kita tenang, produktiviti kita bertambah dan semestinya kita akan berjaya biar apapun bidang yang kita ceburi.

Ada hanya 3 perkara yang perlu dilakukan. Tidaklah begitu menyusahkan sebab hanya tiga perkara yang perlu diikuti...
Akan tetapi ketiga-tiga perkara ini perlulah dilakukan kalau boleh sepanjang masa, dan kalau tidakpun sekurang-kurang sekali setiap hari. Dan kita mestilah melakukan perkara ini setiap hari secara sedar.. iaitu dengan pasti kita perlu berusaha supaya kita melakukan ketiga-tiga perkara tersebut.

Pertama:
Berdoa. Ini adalah rahsia yang tidak menjadi rahsia lagi. Akan tetapi kita hanya tahu bercakap tetapi amat sedikit antara kita yang mengamalkannya dan menhayatinya setiap hari. Berdoa beerti menyandarkan harapan dan impian kita kepada suatu kuasa yang Agung dan menaruh sepenuh keyakinan kita bahawa kuasa Agung itu sahajalah yang berupaya mengurniakan impian kita tersebut. Maka dengan itu kita membuang tekanan di dalam minda separuh sedar kita dalam usaha mengejar impian tersebut. Maka kita lebih tenang dan yakin.

saya beri satu contoh di sini. Kita tidak mahu anak kita yang disayangi terlibat dalam kemalangan jalanraya. jadi kita memastikan kita mengajar beliau cara melintas jalan yang betul, kita memastikan kita memegang tangan mereka ketika melintas dan kita memarahi mereka ketika mereka bermain di tepi jalan yang sibuk. Akan tetapi, dalam masa yang sama, kita tiada berdoa terhadap keselamatan anak kita.. Ya..Kita kata kita berdoa, tetapi kita tidak lakukan dalam keaadaan sedar akan maksud yang di doakan. dalam ertikata yang lain kita tidak betul-betul meminta daripada yang Maha Agung, sedangkan kita memberikan masa, tenaga dan wang ringgit dalam melakukan yang terbaik atas tujuan berikut.

Tidakkah ini megundang satu persoalan dalam jiwa kita semua?

Kita hanya manusia biasa, dan kita tahu kita tidak mampu menetapkan banyak perkara, akan tetapi kita masih berlagak macam kita berupaya melakukan semuanya, termasuklah mencegah anak kita dari terlibat dalam kemalangan!
Jadi, memikirkan perkara di atas, jika kita melakukan yang terbaik sekalipun, kita masih tidak boleh mencegahnya 1oo%! Mungkin ada individu lain yang mabuk yang datang melanggar dari belakang walaupun kita sudah begitu berhati-hati.

jadi, kita hanya boleh melakukan apa yang terbaik dan terdaya sahaja. Selebihnya, usahlah membebankan fikiran kita. berdoa sahaja.. Mintalah apa yang terbuku di hati dan mintalah dengan bersungguh-sungguh dan penuh harapan dan keyakinan..

hasilnya amat menakjubkan.. Percayalah.

Akan tetapi kita perlu berterusan melakukannya.. setiap masa dan ketika kalau boleh.

Ini adalah resepi utama dalam mencari damai di hati. Tanpa syarat ini, maka kedua-dua syarat yang berikut pun tiada membawa sebarang makna. Berdoalah setiap ketika dan berdoalah dari hati kecil kita sendiri. Kita akan tahu, bahawa kita tidak akan mampu menipu diri kita sendiri. hanya diri kita sendiri yang mampu menyelami apa yang kita mahukan..

saya akan berbicara lagi tentang hal ini di waktu yang lain tentang bagaimana untuk berdoa. OK

Dua lagi perkara saya hanya akan sebut di sini, dan saya akan huraikan kemudian disebabkan kesuntukan masa.

Kedua: Pegang niat yang asal (stick to the original desire)
Ketiga: Mulalah memberi (start giving, instead of asking)

saya akan menulis lagi..OK. Sehingga itu jumpa lagi di lain masa.

Nawar

What's more to come?

Dear friends,
I'll write about topics as listed below next time:

1. the recipe for stable state of mind
2. the great power of 'doa' and how to pray effectively
3. how to deal with uncertainties
4. the box of death

and many more interesting topics, aimed mainly to provide clues for a happy and meaningful life.
You can ask for more if you want!! No hidden cost at all. Ha ha

Till then, keep in touch.

Is everything ok with our kids? Are you sure with your answer?

Dear friends,

I have a chat with one of my great teacher few days back. We discussed many things from orthopaedics to life and politics. I want to share this topic with everybody..

Our children are in danger. We are talking about danger not only physical, but enviromental and spiritual.

Nowadays, it is very common for working parents to leave their children either with babysitter (family, neighbour or maid: most of the time Indonesian) or in nursery. I did it too. Most of the time, either we realize or not, we feel relieve and happy as somebody is looking after our kids. Is that really true? I'm talking about our preschool kids here.

I don't think so! I think our kids is in danger of loosing what we really want them to inherit, for the next generation. We said we looked after their education and others needs, but most of the time we only do so from 'money' point of view. We care about payments to the respective parties, transportation and others extra curicular activities, but thatwas for a simple reason. if we do not do so, our comfortable daily routine will be disturbed. We actually is looking after ourselves instead of our children!

Please, even if you don't have time, visit those nursery during abnormal office hours. For examples, around 10 am (when they usually serve snacks @late breakfast) and have a look what is there for our children to eat. You will feel bad most of the time. We occupy hinger rank in the society, but our kids have for food is... so sad to say here.

Go back home during the same time, and have a look ( or 'intai') what's going on at home between your maid and your kids. You will understand what i'm trying to say here? The worse thing, can we afford to do that everyday to find out what's really happening to our kids? I give you my answer.. Impossible!

So, if it's impossible for us to even find out what's going on (data collection), don't you think that it's also impossible for us to provide the correct solution. we don't even recognize what is our problem here!

Dear friends,
Please wake up. Our children are so helpless and they ONLY depend on us to help them. We are their parents and ONLY we can help them. Please do not think that anybody else will do that part for us, eventhough they offer and appear to do so.

I'm giving you only one partof it. There were so many of them. The way they talk to our children, hygiene issue, how about in the toilet, safety, emotional support, advises and so many of them. Swimming class, mandarin class, visits and so many others with extra charges of course cannot replace our company and care.

Eventhough my writing this time appear like everything is bad about our kid's teachers, i do not mean that, actually. Of course some of them are excellent and caring. They deserve certain credits. They have done well to our kids so far!

But they can never replaced our roles as a parents and 'main' love provider.

We are the one, who's supposed to give them love. More than what we claimed! You just need to stay with them, talk to them and observe them through their deeep eyes and you will find the answer. And the answer is not for you to tell anyone else.. It's meant only for you. Because, you're their only solution in their helpless world. They are innocent, I agree, but that doesn'r mean that we can continue to leave them in that bloody helpless environment..

Let's do something friend..

Words of wisdom..Just ask for it!

Dear friends,

One of my habit is to ask for advice everytime i met an elderly person. i will used this sentence "So sir/mdm, based on your lifetime experiences, can you please give me an advice? Maybe you can choose one out of so many you know, the best one hopefully?"
This action usually followed by a puzzled facial expression. But after i managed to convince them, they will start giving one. And this time, they will have problem to stop!

What i'm trying to tell here, these experienced people (old, in other word) did have what i called as 'word of wisdom'. The only limitation is we do not ask enough for it! The more we ask, the more we will get.

i'll share with you my experience. I usually have many patients who belong to this age group and i always liked them so much. For me, dealing with them make me remember my parents and i will use my friendly approach to make them know, i'm sincere to offer my help. At the end of the consultation time, i will ask them for their advice. In fact i use the word, an advice especially for me. You see, most of the time, they will think for a while, and then BANG! I practised this habit every i go, including during visit to a new places, regardless of their location and backgrounds.

I listed them all and will try to make a book out of it.

Dear friends,
In between our busy schedule, looking back at those pieces of advise, i really feel thankful and blessed. I discovered their advice serve as a checkpoint in my life. EVeryone of them, serve as a beautiful reminder, and the best part of it, i remember them. No point you have a reminder, but you still forget, isn't it?

i'll share some great advises in my next opportunity. Till then see you.